Category Archives: Self-improvement

It seems like an oft asked question at the start of business conversations is, “How are you?” A typical response is, “Busy.” I can’t help to wonder why so many people say that and what it really means. Is it a good busy or bad busy? I know many people who profess to be busy,Continue reading “The Business of Busyness”

What makes a person go all out for someone else? What is it about a person that endears him or her to others, so much so they are willing to follow him or her wherever they lead? There are two common characteristics these types of leaders possess: Empathy – they have compassion for others, areContinue reading “Endeared to Lead”

To live a full life, we need to properly position the first domino. If we do, then all other subsequent dominoes fall into place. That first domino must be about love, God’s love to be exact. Love God first, others second. The later is not possible without the first. In conversations, words without love areContinue reading “The First Domino”

What is the foundation upon which you live your life? Does your mind rule your emotions or do your emotions rule your mind? Do your daily decisions flow from how you feel, or do they flow from a posture of your heart that is properly aligned with who God says you are and what HeContinue reading “Mind Over Emotions”

Can you name the three most important values in your life right now? If you can’t, then you certainly can’t live by them. Why is this so important? Because if you don’t decide what’s most important in your life, other people are going to decide for you. They’re going to push you into their mold,Continue reading “The Three Most Important Values in Your Life”

Whether you realize it or not, there is a spiritual war over your mind. It’s the classic good versus evil match-up. Who wins is determined by you. Your mind doesn’t care who wins, but it reveals who wins. Every day is a new battle in the war. Your incremental preparation, training and execution determines theContinue reading “Busy, Not Hurried”

Since I was 12-years old, I’ve lifted weights. It’s still a habit of mine 38-years later. Over the years, my objectives have shifted. Early on, I was focused on core strength for playing football. After college, I was more interested in muscle mass and density and contemplated body-building. As a husband, father and professional, IContinue reading “Strengthen Your Empathy Muscle”

Empathy is transformational in relationships. Like any other skill, it can be mastered with practice and patience. Empathy requires figuring out what the other person is thinking and saying before you seek to be understood. Too many people are consumed by speaking first to make their point heard. The irony is that their point willContinue reading “You Go First”

Let’s define an “outsider” as anyone who doesn’t believe what you believe. To keep those people outside, then all you have to do is make them feel as though you’re better than them by judging their belief as wrong. If your aim is to keep them outside, then it’s very easy to do. Simply judgeContinue reading “Outsiders”

What if we pre-decide to choose people over policies and relationships over rules? What if we pre-decide to … exhibit patience? chose not to be offended? quit taking everything so personally? change the degrading way we talk to others? focus on what we have in common? chose the big picture? value the other person aboveContinue reading “Pre-Decide”