Resolve to Forgive

The word sin is usually used in a religious context, however, it does not have to be. In general and simply stated, sin severs trust between people. While sins are generally considered actions, any thought, word, or act considered immoral, selfish, shameful, harmful, or alienating could also be termed “sinful”. Sin drives wedges in relationships. It breaks down peace and harmony. It produces relational discord.

This is why those with evil motives hate that one little word, forgive. We all have evil motives because we all have an Evil Wolf in our minds. The Evil Wolf loves to persuade us to compare ourselves with others. He coexists in our minds with a Good Wolf, who advocates that there’s no need to compare because we are all uniquely gifted and our value is intrinsically linked to our unique design and giftedness. This daily battle in our minds is either won or lost by which wolf we feed. Feeding the Evil Wolf produces sin, which breaks apart relationships. Feeding the Good Wolf empowers us to forgive, which enables us to see our goodness and the goodness in others. The Good Wolf, our Advocate, helps us to heal relationships so that we focus our time and energy on things that really matter.

Won’t you resolve with me in 2023 to forgive? Warning: this means not once, twice, or even three times, but to infinity. We need to resolve to forgive today, tomorrow, the next day, and the next day. Why? Because that Evil Wolf in all of us won’t stop his relentless appetite for discord. Therefore, we mustn’t become complacent, which is why we need to feed our Good Wolf daily so that we can let go of the past and become all that we can be in this life.

Ok, if not you’re not with me, then you can stop reading. But if you’re “all in,” then what’s one way you can start to forgive in all circumstances by feeding your Good Wolf?

First, detect when you’re feeding your Evil Wolf. You’ll know this when you’re feeling or experiencing:

  • Anger
  • Envy
  • Sorrow
  • Regret
  • Greed
  • Arrogance
  • Self-pity
  • Resentment
  • Inferiority
  • Lies
  • False pride
  • Superiority
  • Ego

Second, counter that by seeing the other person, not as someone who has hurt you, taken advantage of you, has more than you, has less than you, is better than you, or is beneath you, but as someone who has weaknesses and has faced so many trials in life they didn’t deserve. This is how you feed your Good Wolf. Sympathize with them as though you know every detail of their background, just as you would intimately know your best friend. Then put yourself in their shoes and ask what would you want if you were them. Would you want to be condemned? Or would you want to receive compassion and mercy and feel loved and valued?

You’ll know you’re feeding your Good Wolf when you’re feeling or experiencing:

  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Love
  • Hope
  • Serenity
  • Humility
  • Kindness
  • Benevolence
  • Empathy
  • Generosity
  • Truth
  • Compassion
  • Faith

If you’re still reading, then I’m grateful. Thank you for resolving to forgive.

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Published by Marc Casciani

Bridging brothers & sisters to what's important. Author of Craft Your Calling. Host of the Neighborly Love podcast.

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