Our days are filled with passing by other people. Whether it’s on foot or by car, I can’t help but to wonder more and more about the story of those that enter and exit my field of vision. You see, I’m intentionally trying to master my situational awareness, especially as it pertains to other human beings. What are they thinking, feeling and doing. What’s their story? What’s my intuition telling me?
I believe intuition is a skill that can be developed. Intuitional awareness is having the ability to understand or know something without any direct evidence. It requires sensing, feeling and correlating what you know to be true. For example, I know that negative people are usually insecure about or afraid of something. When I encounter a negative person, I’m training myself to try to uncover the root cause using tactical empathy techniques. If you want to know more about tactical empathy, then The Black Swan Group is the ideal source. Chris Voss has pioneered the techniques.
Another thing that strikes me as I pass by others is that I never know who I’m passing. Everyone is equally important, yet culture skews our views and behavior, unfortunately. A universal truth is that no human being can claim importance over the next human being. However, we know all too well that because humans are flawed creatures, we are continually deceived into thinking and acting like we are better and superior than other humans.
Therefore, as I pass by people, I am continually optimizing my intuitional awareness using the following frame of reference:
- Curiosity about their story.
- Sensing what signals they are sending.
- Belief they are no more or less important than me.
- Offering “neighborly love” whereby love is not a feeling, but an action. I am committed to demonstrating neighborly love not because of how lovely they look to me, but to make them feel loved.
The world is in desperate need of more neighborly love. As you pass by people this week, challenge yourself to adopt this frame of reference. Commit to tuning your intuitional awareness and mastering tactical empathy so that you can show neighborly love, even when you don’t feel like it and everyone else is just selfishly passing by.