I will always choose grace. Whenever someone wrongs me, I will always pardon them. That is, I will never seek revenge. I will let it go.
This is the most powerful thing I’ve learned so far in 48-years on earth. It started in my mind and ended in my heart. I chose to operate this way. It was not easy, but over time it transformed my heart. And I’m grateful for being taught its power. Despite my stubbornness, I’ve mastered it. It only took me 48 years. Ha. Better late than never.
This is not to say I don’t have feelings about getting even. I do. However, I entrust that to a higher-power. Some call it the universe. Some call it karma. Some call it God. I will let “it” settle the score in “its” own way and on “its” own schedule. I’ll move on and trust that the score will be settled. After all, I have to get on with my life’s work. I don’t have time to get distracted.
Do you believe this choice could work for you? No?
Look at those situations in your life where you sought revenge or relief of your pain. Even if you got what you wanted, my guess it was a short-term “escape”. How long did it feel good? What were the negative consequences? What did you miss out on? What were the opportunity costs? If you had chosen the alternative, i.e. grace, would your life be better or worse?
Next, examine friends and family. Look for similar examples. Do you see any trends?
For me, I’ve concluded choosing grace is the better decision. It’s liberating. I am free to experience true joy. I have awareness of where I am going. I form good habits. I’ve awakened to my life’s purpose. I am focused and driven to do the right thing. I like the person I’ve become.
I hope you choose grace too. If you’re committed to it, but want help, then I’d be happy to hold your hand.