If you want to be free to live the life you were meant to live, the meaningful life for which you were created to fulfill, then you have to learn to relinquish the right to get even.  It's natural to want to seek revenge, but unlike animals, humans were given a unique ability, freewill.  WeContinue reading "You Have Kept a Record of My Tears"

Reaching the proper mind-heart balance involves developing a set of character qualities that enable you to find your life's purpose.  These qualities are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control.  They are the fruit of your new spirit. A by-product of mind-heart equilibrium is an intuitive sense of what the right thingContinue reading "True Encouragement: Sit, Wait, Weep"

Pastor Rick Warren gave me this quiz recently.  I passed.  Before reading any further, please take it by deciding if each statement is true or false.  A person should not be forgiven until asking for it.  Forgiving includes minimizing the offense and the pain caused.  Forgiveness includes restoring trust and reuniting a relationship.  You haven’tContinue reading "The Forgiveness Quiz"

What if I told you that you have something in you that is stronger than anything this world can produce? Would you believe me? Something greater than anything life could throw at you. Something that you’ve had since you were conceived. Something that has been attempting to grow since you were born. When you wereContinue reading "Love & Dominoes"

Do you have a special day of reflection and rest during the week, i.e. a Sabbath?  There are no excuses not to have one, even during your busiest of times.  If fact, that's when you need it the most. A day when you don't do any real work and rest your body. A day where you decompress, have fun andContinue reading "No Excuses"

Get to know the mind of Christ by asking "What would Jesus do?" The outcome of daily battles that occur in your mind between the you want to be and your old self, pop culture and Satan is determined by what and how you think.  Knowing your enemies and the strategies and tactics they employContinue reading "The Battle of the Mind (Part 2) – What Would Jesus Do?"

Whether you realize it or not, every new day when your eyes open, heart beats, lungs breathe, and blood flows is a gift.  It is a new day of opportunity and possibility.  Be grateful for it.  Be a good steward of it. To do that, you must recognize that your day will be a seriesContinue reading "The Battle of the Mind (Part 1)"

I reject the premise that there are unmotivated people.  I believe everyone is motivated by something.  We're just motivated by different things.  Motivation is an art, not a science.  The trick is to first learn and then lead.  Learn what someone wants, then you can lead them to do what you want. Most people I'veContinue reading "Just Keep Looking, Looking, Looking"

If you want to know who you really are, what you're really like, then there's an easy litmus test: How do you act when no one is looking? ... or a slightly modified version is: How do you act when your son, daughter or spouse is looking? Having the mental awareness to ask yourself theseContinue reading "When No One is Looking"

On a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being in complete control, where do you rank yourself on self-control, i.e. having control over your feelings or actions or showing restraint over your impulses, emotions or desires? Today I give myself a 9.  Five years ago, I was a 2.  To change, I had to learnContinue reading "Self-Control"