We are controlled by our habits. Some are bad and some are good. They form when our brain forms an automatic pattern response to a trigger. Our brain learns to remember the pattern because there is a reward at the end of the routine. The habit is a closed-loop cycle: trigger, routine, reward; repeat.
This awareness is the cornerstone of habit change. The only way to truly live is to throw away bad habits and replace them with good ones.
Now, if you’re like me and have a tough time sifting through the ginormous amount of self-help stuff on habits, then I’m going to tell you a secret: you only need to master one good habit. That is, the habit of doing the right thing. Once this is a routine, you will know what it means to find life.
To do the right thing over and over until it becomes automatic takes grit. You’ll need to be a mudder. You’ll also need to know the difference between right and wrong. There are absolute rights and wrongs, but there’s also a lot of gray areas. For those, you need a framework from which to operate. This is where many people struggle. Their ego, anger, bitterness, need for revenge, etc. are hurdles that get in the way. Their hurts, hangups and bad habits cloud their judgement.
Trust me when I tell you I’ve been there. I can empathize. However, by staying focused on mastering the only good habit that matters, i.e. the habit of doing the right thing, I got there, and now I am truly living life.
If you too crave this, but need help, it’s ok to admit it. My right hand is stretched out for you. Take it. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain. I will help you.
Click here to fill out the confidential “do the right thing” form, let me know what “right vs. wrong” issue you’re struggling with and how I can help.