I Cannot Transform if I Conform

We went against the grain for our daughter’s 10th birthday party. Normally, most birthday parties these days are held off-site in some controlled environment with boundaries. Kids’ creative energies aren’t permitted to be unleashed. They are cold parties, not warm and inviting. They’re just a another checkbox. Birthday party, check. Back in the day, allContinueContinue reading “I Cannot Transform if I Conform”

Friction. Choices, Choices?

Friction is everywhere. If it wasn’t, life would be easy. There’d be no resistance to anything you try to do. Choices would be a breeze. One type of friction is good. It’s feedback telling you you’re on the wrong path and should adjust course. Another type of friction is bad. It’s a test trying toContinueContinue reading “Friction. Choices, Choices?”

Fear. Fret. Faith.

Do you fear anything? Do you fret about anything? Do you live by faith? I can honestly answer: no, no and yes. Can you? It took me 46 years to really understand what it meant to live life by faith. I’m 47 now. I thought I understood, but I didn’t. That is, living secure inContinueContinue reading “Fear. Fret. Faith.”

You Are Essential

It’s a snowy winter morning, and you’re commuting into town listening to the radio. The news reports that “Only essential government personnel need to report to work. All nonessential employees are to stay home.” What goes through your mind? If you’re like me, you say to yourself, “Well, if someone is nonessential, then why wouldContinueContinue reading “You Are Essential”

Small Things

What do you do with the small things in life? Do you handle them with care? Are you a good steward of them even when no one is looking? Do you think of them as incremental building blocks of the future? The answers to these questions reveal your character. Whoever can be trusted with veryContinueContinue reading “Small Things”

Other Peoples’ Shoes

People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. You can be the smartest person in the room, but it doesn’t matter until that opportunity to show genuine empathy. That moment to connect on a meaningful level. True connection that reveals your humanity, not some superficial Facebook-level connection. Such intuitive awareness ofContinueContinue reading “Other Peoples’ Shoes”

Inspiration and Temptation

Good ideas inspire. Bad ideas tempt. They coexist in your mind and battle daily for control. You get to choose which thoughts to dwell on. You always have a way out when tempted. It may be hard, painful or embarrassing, but it’s there. To take this escape route, you need to see and follow theContinueContinue reading “Inspiration and Temptation”

Everything is Made Beautiful for it’s Own Time

Until this weekend, this looked like a weed. And every weekend since Spring, I thought about pulling it. Boy am I glad I didn’t. Look how beautiful it is. Unbeknownst to me, it was designed to be beautiful. It was created to be a thing a beauty. To see that, patience was required. Long afterContinueContinue reading “Everything is Made Beautiful for it’s Own Time”

Throwing Stones

Imagine a place where nobody throws stones. Where everything said or done is to build up, not break down. To help, not hurt. To support, not accuse. Where there is no gossip. No making fun of others. No harmful words that cut like a knife. Where there’s no pointing fingers. No getting even. No eyeContinueContinue reading “Throwing Stones”

Unconditional Love

Have you ever wondered why dogs are able to love unconditionally? Why it comes so natural to them? How they are able to quickly put the past behind and live in the present? They understand their purpose is to love you. They are singularly focused on that. Period. Bad things can happen, but they justContinueContinue reading “Unconditional Love”