Conquering Envy

We all carry expectations, desires, and hopes for our lives, and it’s natural that our plans may not always align with those dreams. It’s understandable to feel disappointed about what we lack, and we often find ourselves looking at others and wishing for what they have. In those moments, it’s easy for envy to creep in, reminding us of our perceived shortcomings.

If we take a moment to reflect openly and honestly, we may discover that feelings of envy have quietly settled in our hearts. It’s worth asking ourselves whether there’s someone whose achievements—be it material, physical, or relational—stir feelings of discomfort or unhappiness in us. The truth about envy is that it prevents us from seeing the whole story of another person’s life. Often, there are complexities and challenges hidden beneath the surface that we may not fully grasp.

If you’re experiencing feelings of envy, it’s important to recognize how this can keep you from embracing the wonderful plans God has for you. There’s a powerful reason why “Thou Shalt Not Covet” is among the Ten Commandments. Envy can ensnare anyone, regardless of their circumstances, and God’s guidance against it is truly for our well-being. It’s more than just a guideline; it’s a protective measure. Envy can amplify our struggles, much like a snowball rolling down a hill, leading to significant emotional fallout if not addressed. Confusion, anxiety, and bitterness can cloud our vision, making it challenging to discern God’s unique path for our lives. Often, we find ourselves fixated on what we lack, which can breed resentment towards those who possess what we desire. This in turn can feed our fear of inadequacy, overshadowing our true worth.

If you ever sense the presence of envy in your life, know that you’re not alone, and there are compassionate steps you can take: Begin by gently acknowledging that you might be harboring a covetous mindset. Recognize that it can be easy to focus on what God is doing in someone else’s life instead of your own journey. Take a moment to genuinely thank Him for the blessings in that person’s life, and humbly ask Him to fill your heart with love for your neighbor, easing the weight of envy. Then, shift your perspective to appreciate the unique blessings He is bringing into your own life, embracing gratitude for those gifts. This is the essence of feeding your “good wolf” while starving your “evil wolf.” Embracing these steps is how you can lovingly navigate and overcome feelings of envy.