If you want to be a leader that everyone loves to follow, then learn how to lead meekly. Meek is defined as being humbly patient, gentle and kind. People often confuse meekness with weakness. It’s not. Meekness is strength, confidence and grace under pressure and provocation. If you can become a student of how to lead meekly, then you’ll attract “the right” people willing to follow.
What do I mean by “the right” people? These are people who want to follow, but also want to be trusted with authority so they too can develop in to meek leaders.
As I reflect on my own personal journey, there was a defining moment that resulted in a choice.
Defining Moment: My heart was shattered in to pieces by someone I love. The pain was acute and sustained for years. The mental trauma was a life-disrupting event. I needed relief from the pain.
Choice: Rather than permit fear, hatred, resentment or revenge to fill the cracks of my broken heart, I let God’s love in. His love is what’s holding together my new and improved heart.
With the benefit “the end view”, I see I needed those cracks to let love in. I thought I was living the American dream, but it was actually a nightmare. I professed to know God, but really didn’t. I talked the talk, but did not walk the walk. I fooled people, but not God.
Now, it’s important to note my pain was not punishment for my past sins. God does not hurt people. People hurt people. We hurt each other because we have freewill to make bad decisions. God did not wish the trauma on me. Rather, he wept with me as I went through it and made sure good resulted. Throughout the experience, he was with me, working for my benefit and delivering on his promise. I don’t blame him, rather I am forever thankful to him.
Let’s examine how and why my transformation happened:
- First, acknowledge we become what we think about. This is natural law that can not be avoided.
- Second, letting God’s love fill the cracks of my shattered heart meant I often thought of him, spent time with him and became of student of the teacher he sent for me, Jesus.
- Lastly, because I always thought of him, my heart became like his heart. It became my treasure.
Because God’s spirit now dwells in my heart, he reveals himself in deeper, more knowable ways to me. Moment by moment, he unveils his thoughts, feelings, power, love and will in a manner that surpasses that of mere language. He speaks straight from his spirit to mine that I may truly know him to greater depths than anyone else. I have centered my life around knowledge of him.
This knowledge empowers me to properly treat others in a humble, patient, gentle and kind way. I am willing and able to forgive and serve without expecting anything in return. I can now demonstrate love no matter what’s shown to me.
That’s how you change hearts and minds. That’s how you lead in a positive uplifting way. That’s how you lead meekly.