It’s Not About Me

It’s not about me.” Think about what life would be like if more of us truly believed that and acted that way.

Such a simple statement, yet so hard to live out. It seems like the world is wired against it … completely backwards, 180 degrees out of phase.

I’ve accepted my purpose in life is to train others to believe it. As a coach, the happiest moments are when you see an athlete “get it”. The lightbulb goes off. They have an AHA moment.

Everything we say and do has power to influence somebody in a very positive way
It’s not just about me mentoring or ministering to a segment of people to help them advance their career; it’s about making women that also in the future are going to be impacting generations upon generations behind them.

Client of the MindWolves personal growth system expressing their AHA Moment

Watch for yourself this coaching session experience and client’s AHA moment (runtime is 5 min … it will open in a new windowplease come back to the story after you watch it!)

Hear what some other clients have to say about their experiences …

I’ve read quite a few personal development books, but Marc’s approach is different and has helped me discover how the calling in my life is woven into my personal and professional self. So many people emphasize a “balance” of work and life and how that balance requires a separation of the two. Working with Marc has opened my eyes to the cadence that comes when we integrate our calling into everything we do. Our purpose is who we are, no matter where we are. For me personally, this realization has brought a great sense of joy in what I do each day.

– Client #1

Before MindWolves, I was lost, frustrated and not happy with myself. I overthought everything which created immense anxiety. I strained personal and business relationships because I had no counsel or direction. But now working with Marc, I have learned to understand how to think, process those thoughts and exercise the mind. I have improved significantly in Mind, Body and Spirit. In many ways, he has saved my life!

– Client #2

Life has a tendency to accelerate as we get older, and that can leave many people neglecting what is most important. That’s where I’ve found myself, on a treadmill filled with priorities that, while important, tend to overtake my real life’s purpose.

In working with Marc I’ve been able to identify what I had started to lose and work on improving and refining what my real purpose is. While I’ll never be able to perfect it, I’ve already seen a positive impact in my life.

I would recommend Marc’s coaching to anyone looking to rebalance and find their true calling.

– Client #3

I’ve written a book to allow anyone who feels unfulfilled, unhappy or unclear about their life to try a 30-day warm up before committing to training with me. It’s available for pre-order until June 4, 2020 at 8 am EDT.

There are four pre-order packages available, two of which contain free coaching sessions. Those packages contain multiple copies of the book which you could gift to others in your family, on your team at work, or friends in your circles. You could use the coaching sessions for yourself or them as well.

I have 6 publishers interested, however the quality of publisher increases if I hit my goal of 500 copies. I really want to attract a top-shelf publisher. The key to hitting the goal are the packages that include free coaching sessions.

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Proskartereó

Proskartereó (Greek): to attend constantly
Part of Speech: Verb
Phonetic Spelling: (pros-kar-ter-eh’-o)
Definition: A steadfast and single-minded faithfulness to a person, cause or belief, demonstrated by continued loyalty and support, in order maintain a certain course of action.
Usage: I persist, persevere in, continue steadfast in; I wait upon.

Your “good wolf” is the part of you that wants you to proskartereó in doing what’s right. It wants you to be true, noble, right and pure. It wants you to always show neighborly love, strive for excellence, and serve others in an admirable, praiseworthy manner. It wants you to craft your calling in life.

Your “good wolf” wants you to continually do what’s right. It wants you to find passion and purpose. It wants you to yield the fruit of the Spirit in your mind and heart: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness & self-control.

The problem is that your “evil wolf” doesn’t want that. It would rather hold you back because of fear. It would love for you to harbor regret and envy. It wants you to get even with the person who wronged you. Rather than have you stay on course toward your goal, it relishes in getting you off track and distracted by that shiny object.

Unfortunately in our minds, we tend to feed our evil wolf more than our good wolf. Frankly, our culture does not lack “mental junk food”. It’s much easier to find than healthier alternatives. Mentally healthier food is available, but you need to know where to find it. Often it feels like, despite our best efforts, our good wolf simply cannot find enough food to eat. Its feels like the evil wolf is winning the battle in our mind.

Our culture also does not lack advice from people who love to tell you what to do to win that battle. Although well intentioned, they present their list of “5 things” or “7 habits” or “top 10”, but they miss the mark. The problem is that they stop short of showing you how to do it.

So many of us buy books, purchase videos and subscribe to self-help services, only to fall short of finishing them. Why? It seems like the focus is on the teaching, not the learning, i.e. the teacher not the student. Self-help teachers get rich and famous, but students don’t even graduate. Research shows we are generally bad at finishing what we start.

I looked for a book that would help me by serving me, where the author would be someone who would personally and figuratively “hold my hand” so that I would finish what I started. When I couldn’t find that book, I decided to write it. Craft Your Calling is that book.

The problem in the personal development and self-improvement market for the target reader is that every book merely tells you what you need to do to be a better version of yourself. Every author presents their list of things needed to grow and find meaning in life. Their end goal is to educate the target reader without regard for actual learning and growth.

In Craft Your Calling, you’ll be taken through a 30-day warm-up to prepare you to train for your calling. A calling is a worthy occupation where one derives meaning. It requires hunger and passion. It leverages the one true gift we have. We’re all here for a reason. We’re all here to do something great. But it’s not through our job. It’s through our calling. The Bible says in Ephesians 4:1 that we are to “live up to the life which God called you.”

After reading the book, if you decide to start your training, then I’ll be your coach. And you’ll actually get me, not someone else. I completed the journey upon which you’ll want to embark. I have crafted my calling, and my story uniquely qualifies me to be your coach. This book is not for everyone, but if you commit, then you won’t have to walk your journey alone. You will learn to wake up every single day and continually, steadfastly feed your good wolf. As you feed your good wolf, you will craft your calling.

To learn more and pre-order my book, kindly click here.

PLEASE (if you are able)

Dear MindWolves follower,

I’m down to the wire and in urgency mode …

As you know, I have written a book on personal growth & self-improvement and am doing a campaign to attract readers and publishers, which is now in the final 12 days.

The more books sold, the more publishers I will be pitched to. I’m shooting for 500 books sold. I’m at 110.

PLEASE (if you are able) click on this link and preorder a copy: Pre-order Craft Your Calling by Marc Casciani 

(Look to the right of the page … there are 4 packages, each with bonus content … a great gift for yourself, your team or your loved ones.)

Thank you so much. I am very grateful.

Let’s Play Make-Believe

Everyone struggles with the emotion of fear. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of death. While some fears birth heros as a result of their actions to a threat, most fears handicap people.

Fear and courage are polar opposites. Both are states of mind. Courage enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc. with strength and confidence. Fear paralyzes a person from looking any further than the threat itself, whether real or imagined.

Kindly permit me to differentiate between being tempted to fear and actually becoming afraid. They are not equal. One could be tempted to fear, but never succumb to it. In fact, that would affirm the meaning of courage. It is only when one succumbs to the fear that they enter the state of being afraid.

In short, the only difference between the two states of mind is the response to the temptation of fear. Circumstances do not change, but attitude does. The source of threat or agony is not removed, but a courageous person has the inner strength of spirit to not become afraid. That inner strength of spirit is available to each of us, if we want it.

Now, let’s play make-believe. Just like when we were kids.

What’s the worst thing that could happen to you? What’s your worst fear?

Ok, pretend it happens to you. What’s your response? Would you act courageously? Or would you become afraid?

In our world of make-believe, imagine you’re in the clutches of fear. You’re tempted to give in. You can’t bear it any longer. When the agony is at it’s peak, you’re delivered from it and don’t become afraid. You walk away with a humble swagger, a type of peaceful confidence that only a relationship with God can provide.

That make-believe neighborhood may not be your reality today, but it can be tomorrow. In 2013, it wasn’t mine either, but it is today.

If you feel stuck, unsure, unfulfilled and want to feel happy and in control of your response to the temptation of fear no matter the circumstance, then I invite you to pre-order my book, Craft Your Calling. I’ve developed a coaching system to help you so that you don’t have to figure it out yourself. I’ll be with you every step of the journey.

When you click the link to pre-order, look for the $500 and $2,000 packages on the right side of the page that include free coaching sessions. If you buy one of those packages today, then you’ll be a charter member and able to gift a session to anybody you care about (upto the number of sessions in the package). It’s a wonderful gift to yourself, your team or your family. All coaching sessions are held virtually via Zoom.

Train for Significance

Our most innate need is to feel significant, to find purpose and meaning in our human existence. We want something to survive us. While many attempt to find significance by gratifying their own ambitions, I argue that significance is not possible unless what we do contributes to the welfare of others.

There’s a test for that. It’s a simple question: “Does what I am about to do contribute to the welfare of others in a demonstration of faith, love, obedience and service to God?” It is not humanly possible to find lasting significance apart from a genuine relationship with God.

Forming such a relationship, and thereby developing significance, is not something that simply happens. It must be intentional. Daily habits need to be formed that shape and deepen the relationship in a meaningful way. What forgiveness truly is must be learned and mastered. Moving the dial daily towards the end of changing one’s character should be the primary motive. The journey is more akin to a marathon than a sprint, and the end result is a renewed spirit and mindset that answers your life’s WHY and affirms your life’s WORK.

In other words, your life’s WHY and your life’s WORK are synonymous. They both are designed to exist in harmony with all other aspects of your life and drive your motive for living and attitude with relationships. God’s original design for work was for it to be a holy pursuit, a holy vocation, a calling. It’s how He intended us to occupy our time on Earth. Our feeling of significance directly stems from feeling God’s pleasure in what we do to improve the welfare of others.

To meet our most innate need to feel significant, we must train for it. As an athlete trains to compete in the arena of their sport, you must train to compete in the arena of life. Additionally, it’s helps to have a coach, and I’d be grateful to serve as yours.

If you’re unsure that you’re ready to start your training, that’s ok. Perhaps it’s not the right time or the right approach. If you are interested in a 30-day warm-up before you commit, then I would kindly ask you to pre-order my book, Craft Your Calling. To learn more about it, please click here.

To all the moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day. To my mom, I love you. You set the standard for motherly kindness, gentleness and love. I am so grateful to call you my mom.

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Selfish Panic vs. Neighborly Resilience

I am a student of habit change, and there are two indisputable facts about habits:

  1. You can’t break a habit. You can only replace it with another habit.
  2. Habits provide short-term rewards and long-term outcomes, for better or worse.

A habit is simply a behavior that is repeated because it generates an immediate reward. It is comprised of a trigger, a routine (the behavior) and the reward. Typically, the long-term consequences are ignored until the outcome is realized at some point in the future. Humans have been taught to do what helps them now before worrying about it later for everyone else.

Kindly permit me to examine this in the context of the coronavirus craziness. The trigger is fear of dying. The behavior is selfish panic. Among other rewards, the chief reward is self-preservation. If you’re one of those acting this way, think hard about why your current behavior is so rewarding. Make a list of all the things it’s doing for you. Then look at an alternative behavior that will deliver some of those same rewards but lead to better long-term outcomes. Your eyes may be opened to see that your selfish panic is not serving the long-term good of you, your family or society. It’s not building a resilient culture. Rather, it’s building a culture that changes with the winds of the next fear.

Today it’s COVID-19. Tomorrow it’s COVID-20. Then COVID-21. Will you ever let your children visit a friend’s house again? Will our Easter, Mother’s Day, Memorial Day, Father’s Day, Fourth of July, Labor Day, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s celebrations be virtual in perpetuity? There will always be something that may kill you.

My hope for everyone stuck in fear and selfish panic is that you will renew your mind to the truth that there is something bigger than yourself at work for the good of the world. There is no reason to live the way you’re living at the moment. You don’t have to be subject to emotions, fears, doubts, and insecurities that come with this world.

My mission is to build a resilient community by honoring a hallowed force that maintains a civil and long-term neighborly-focused culture. That community is willing to sign-up now to sacrifice something one day far in the future. By doing that, they’ll receive priority later when they need it.

9 to 5 Corona Grind

I’m about to say something counter-cultural. I am grateful for COVID-19. More specifically, I am grateful for the opportunity to emerge stronger from the coronavirus craziness. The facts about the disease do not warrant the hysteria, however there is a silver lining.

Facts:

  • Most people who fall sick with COVID-19 experience mild to moderate symptoms and recover without special treatment.
  • In my home county of Pennsylvania, Allegheny County, there were more fatalities due to alcohol-related vehicle accidents in 2018, than there are COVID-19 related deaths to date.
  • Over 50% of the COVID-19 deaths (844) in PA were in Philadelphia county and the three bordering suburban counties in PA, Montgomery, Delaware and Bucks.

Now, I do not offer this small subset of data to dispute the seriousness of the pandemic. However, I do offer them as a matter of perspective. As a law-abiding citizen, I am willing to take prudent measures to mitigate the risk of transmission as I function day-in and day-out in society. To assume any less of me is insulting and juvenile. I take offense to Governor Wolf’s coercion of the good people of PA. He has bullied most of us into submission. Rather than trusting us to be mature, responsible adults, he has treated us like an overprotective parent of teenagers. I am as likely to be killed behind the steering wheel of my car than I am COVID-19, and I’ve taken that educated risk my whole life.

However, there’s a silver lining. There is an opportunity for people, families and businesses to emerge stronger from the coronavirus craziness. Companies and families will be healthier because they are organic teams that are intrinsically intertwined. The Industrial Revolution served to split them into two teams. But now, thanks to COVID-19, they will be more tightly integrated once again. We’ll be better able to make a living and make a family.

The walls between “the office” and “the home” have been shattered, thank God. For 25 years, I’ve long been bothered by the separation of work and home. It seemed like even white-collar companies were designed and run as factories where employees were just cogs to be used to make a profit. The daily grind forced us to spend more time with our colleagues than with our families. Now the 9 to 5 corona grind has forced us to find a way to be as productive working with our families occupying the same space. What a blessing!

After six weeks or so, my teammates are expressing they may actually be more productive working from home. Sure, they miss the camaraderie that existed in our business office setting and believe an ideal environment would offer the flexibility of having both a business and home office. In other words, they’re affirming what I’ve long said, “My office is wherever I am.” Since the Internet was commercialized in the 1990’s, I’ve professed those words.

So, with all due respect to the seriousness of the pandemic and despite my frustration with not being treated like a mature adult, I am so grateful for COVID-19. It has hastened the opportunity to redefine the meaning of work and home in a much healthier way. It has created more openness and awareness that professionals can be trusted to be productive no matter where they are. It gives everyone a better ability to meet our most innate need, the need to feel significant, which is not possible unless what we do contributes to the welfare of others. That includes our teammates, communities and families.

I am thankful for the 9 to 5 corona grind. I am grateful for it’s silver lining.

One Thing in Common

I know that you and I have at least one thing in common. There is a door opened to each of us for something beautiful to be worked out in our life. I saw the door and walked through it. Have you? If not, then look for my hand stretched out for you. Take it and let me show you what’s possible.

On the other side of the door, we have to first discuss authority. That is, under whose authority do you do anything. If we get this answer wrong, then we may as well turn around and walk back out the door. The only way we can stay on this side of the door of opportunity is to submit to God’s authority. It’s ok if you don’t want to. That’s your choice. But if you do, then trust it will be worth it.

What does that actually mean? It simply means that if God wills, you will do. Implicit to that statement is obedience. An obedience to his principles. A hunger to understand his teaching and a willingness to be obedient to it. A humility to let your will be subordinate to his. An acknowledgment that it is he who enables the good that arises out of the mess of your life because in all things he is working for your good. This is the opportunity that is common to us.

On this side of the door, obedience comes from faith in his word. As a result of our faith, our desire is to be obedient to his authority.

The cool thing about being on this side of the door is that God will be working out something beautiful with your life even if the world knows almost nothing about you. The type of beauty I’m talking about is relational and meaningful. It’s not based on popularity. It’s counter cultural. It’s about serving others with neighborly love so that they want to follow you through that same door we all have in common.

The One in You

The One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. Do you believe that? Do you see that?

Kindly let me offer affirmation that it is true. Because of it, you are able to become so much more than you are right now. You are called to use your earthbound talents for a heavenly purpose. Even if you don’t see it, believe it.

Another truth is you can’t accomplish it on your own. You need a helper. Someone to serve as mentor, teacher and friend. Someone who is yoked to the Holy Spirit so that you too can learn what it means to be yoked to the Spirit. Your life’s calling will be crafted with that alignment.

By Cgoodwin – Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=3894456

When two animals are yoked, they share the burden of work together. When you are yoked to a friend who shares your burden, then your load is lighter. You don’t have to do all the work yourself. Simply humble yourself and submit to their help. When that friend is yoked to the Holy Spirit, then you too become yoked to the Spirit, and thereby can learn to live life under the power and influence of the Holy Spirit.

Casciani Kids Easter 2010 anno Domini (AD)

Friendship with the Spirit is one of God’s greatest gifts to us. He speaks to us, is emotionally invested in our lives, helps us in our weakness and prays for us when we don’t have the words. He is our constant companion.

Be encouraged by these truths. In my own story, I’ve learned them to be true, and the coach in me desires to teach my kids, family, friends and neighbors so that they can experience it too.

Happy Easter.

Bolt 150

If you would have told me 150 weeks ago that two things would happen on April 5, 2020:

  1. I’d be writing my 150th consecutive weekly story at MindWolves.com, and
  2. I’d be writing about my family’s Boston Terrier, Bolt.

I would not have believed you.

For one thing, writing has always been a weakness of mine, and I’m still not a confident writer. Moreover, Bolt was the healthiest and youngest of our two dogs.

My family lost a loving member of our pack on Thursday, April 2nd. It was sudden. It was shocking. There was no warning. There were no signs that something was wrong with Bolt. He came in from outside like normal, barked and bounced for his treat, and drank a little water. Five minutes later, I found him unresponsive on the kitchen floor. No pulse. No breath.

Now, if your not a dog lover, or an animal lover, then you can stop reading. I’ll spare you the rest because it won’t make sense to you. You’ll probably call me silly.

Our hearts literally hurt. We are heart broken. We are grieving. Our home feels different. Our pack is not the same without Bolt. He was a twenty-two pound ball of love and joy. He would have turned 9 years old on July 3rd. He wasn’t supposed to die yet.

We got Bolt when he was just 7 weeks old. The kids were 6 and 3 years old. They grew up with him. Now 15 and 12, Dallas and Jarah are experiencing their first real loss of someone they loved dearly and knew intimately. Bolt was a true friend.

As a parent, I’ve been thrust in to a role I did not expect or want at the moment. I need to teach them how to grieve correctly while grieving myself. Man, is this hard.

Grief is a reality of life that is either a healthy or hurtful process. When healthy, you emerge from it stronger, wiser and able to live life more positive and cheerful. When hurtful, you end up weaker, bitter and more negative and depressed.

I’m teaching them it’s ok to cry. It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to express how you feel. It’s ok to be sad. I’m not trying to make them feel better. I’m just allowing them to be present with me, and I am focused on being in the moment with them.

We’re telling stories about Bolt. What we loved about him. What he did that made us laugh. What we remember, the good and the bad. What he meant to our family. What he represented.

Here were some unchangeable truths about Bolt:

  • Bolt saw everything we went through. It’s as though he intrinsically felt it.
  • Bolt cared about everything we went through. You could see it in his face.
  • Bolt always acted out of his goodness to us.
  • Bolt never stopped loving us.
  • No matter what we went through, Bolt was always there to support us.
  • Bolt never worried about anything. He lived in the present.

I believe when animals die, their spirits go straight to our Lord in Heaven. A friend and colleague shared this beautiful prayer with me this week:

He is not lost our dearest love, nor has he traveled far,

Just stepped inside home’s loveliest room, and left the door ajar.

There’s only one thing in all of God’s creation that worries: human beings. We’re the only things that don’t trust him, and God says that’s unnatural.

Bolt affirmed this in the way he lived his life. I am so grateful his spirit was and always will be part of our family. In fact, I renamed our family WiFi to Bolt Wireless to symbolize he’s still with us.

We don’t know how much time we have left here on earth, but that doesn’t mean we have to live in fear and without hope. Bolt’s model for living is a model we can embrace.

Thank you so so much for being you, Bolt. We’ll missing petting your little black and white body, but your spirit will forever be part of our family.

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