The Art of Letting Go

Do you struggle with letting go of the past? If you do, then you’re in good company. Many of us do. I’d like to share one thing that helped me with your permission. Accept that there’s nothing beneficial about holding on to it. It’s in the past for a reason. It’s gone and you can’t control it. You can only learn from it and use it for a better future. This applies to both good and bad things that happen to you.

We all need positive forward momentum to get through life. That’s the only real way to live. It’s the only way to not get stuck. When good things happen, it’s easy to ride that high and lose sight of the uncertain future. Before you know it, you’re getting blindsided by bad news. When bad things happen, dwelling on them prevents you from learning, growing, and equipping yourself to change the outcome the next time around.

Mastering the art of letting go is a process. To maintain a front-sight focus, you need to form habits around the beginning and end of your days. These Morning and Evening Rituals train your mind to Feed Your Good Wolf and Starve Your Evil Wolf. For me, the foundation of these Rituals is built upon the Word of God. I understand and respect not everyone is open-minded to this method, however, for those that are, I can say with 1000% certainty, that it works.

It’s also important to humbly realize that you’re never quite finished with mastering the art of letting go. Even when you’re very good at the skill, many things try to get you off your game, such as complacency and pride (thinking that you’ve arrived and are good enough) and attacks aimed at hurting you (making your feel and think that you’re not good enough). Therefore, I am continuously “sharpening my saw” and never giving up. My Rituals are a staple of who I am moving forward. Here are key facts I take (and memorize) from the Bible:

• Brothers and sisters, … But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead. (Philippians 3:13)
• Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel. (Philippians 1:12)
• And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

As a coach, I realize I can’t help everyone, but I can help those who are intrigued by my approach and who want the help. If that’s you, then I welcome a conversation.