The Holy Grail

Aren’t we all in search of life’s holy grail, i.e. that elusive thing with miraculous powers that provides happiness, wholeness and sustenance in infinite abundance, that thing which helps us feel significant. Without it, we feel inadequate and incomplete, and we’re just going through the motions.

Well, I’ve found it. Before we go any further, let’s define a few terms:

  • Calling [kaw-ling] noun – a worthy occupation where one derives meaning; requires hunger and passion
  • Train [treyn] verb (used with object) – to be taught through practice and instruction; requires humility and coachability
  • Success [suhk-ses] noun – the progressive realization of a worthy ideal; requires persistence and grit

Many people incorrectly think their calling is something that is found. They wonder through life with a hunger to find meaning in their work, yet struggle to do work that matters. How many worthwhile things in life are found versus created? An extreme sense of ownership is needed to create your calling. It’s not accidental. Rather, it must be intentional. You must train to receive your God-given gifts.

As long as your motivation is right, whatever you do can become a calling. That means menial tasks become meaningful tasks when do them out of love for God and others. When you view what you do as serving humankind, everything you do becomes significant.

If you would have told me 30 years ago I would cultivate my calling by selling insurance, I would have laughed and laughed and laughed. As an mechanical engineer graduating from a top engineering program, my ego ensured I looked down upon the sales profession and insurance industry. I was too educated for that type of job.

When I reflect on my motivational tipping point, the root cause holding me back was my ego. I was too proud, and the only thing that did was guarantee my unhappiness. It was humility that unlocked true happiness and enabled me to create my calling. I had to learn how to be humble, and I accomplished this by training my mind and heart to serve others. The humble choice isn’t always the easy one, but the humble choice to serve others rather than expecting others to serve you will transform your relationships and lead to lasting happiness.

Society defines success as the attainment of wealth, status, honors, or the like. That could not be further from the truth. Training for your calling entails re-calibrating your mind to define success as the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. As long as your making progress toward your calling, then your a successful person.

Your calling is like an infinite football field, and you’re the feature running back. Focus on “moving the chains”. You have four plays to get a first down. Many plays will result in positive yardage. Some will be for a loss. Others no gain. On average, net 10 yards every 4 plays, and you’ll progressively move the chains down the field.

I hope this makes sense and you’re compelled to act. I’ve developed a system to train you for your calling, and I’d be grateful for the opportunity to hold your hand throughout the journey. To read about it, click here.

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